FAQ
How many sessions do I recommend?
I'd advise you to trust your own guidance on this one. I work with folks for a single session, a few sessions, a few times a year. I have a few working relationships that started over a decade ago. Sometimes all you need is momentary support. Other times you may benefit from the commitment and momentum that comes with having a guide (& friend) that believes in you and is there to support you. I believe what spiritual teacher, Adyashanti, so impeccably states: “If I do this work honestly, I’ll put myself out of work as fast as possible."
Do I work with women and couples?
I work with folks of all ethnicities, gender & sexual orientations, body types, and abilities.
I'm open and receptive to working with women / vulva-owning folks.
What I've found to be most essential, through my experiences as a client, is to take notice of how do you feel around a guide. Do you feel safe, seen, heard, and respected?
I do not currently work with couples.
Note on kinky play
I no longer offer kink exploration with first-time clients — and I want to explain why. This is not about kink shame. We're living through a remarkable shift in how the world understands unconventional desire, and kink can be a profound vehicle for creativity, emotional discovery, acceptance, and care — even when it doesn't look that way from the outside.
But I've noticed that when kink is the focus of a first session, we both tend to slip into performance, playing roles rather than truly meeting each other. That's why I ask that we build something first. I offer only light kinky play at my discretion for returning clients.
And if you're looking for a deeper dive into kink, there are wonderfully talented, skilled practitioners out there who specialize in exactly that.
A Semester with Jesse
A guided exploration into the soul of erotic intimacy spread across a semester, paced to your life.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development — the longest running scientific study of happiness ever conducted — asked one question: what makes a good life? They tracked wealth, success, health, genetics, lifestyle. The answer is simple: the quality of our relationships determines how well and how long you live.
What about the quality of our sexual and intimate lives?
We all read the same headlines: fewer people are having sex, across all age groups, including young people. Sex in long term relationships is declining. Dating feels harder than ever, and more are opting out entirely. Sex has been reduced to content, porn dependence is rising. Physical touch, not just sexual, is disappearing from daily life. We have more resources than ever — new sex toys, libido enhancing supplements, dating apps, social media relationship coaches, tantra weekend retreats, and now AI companions.
So much of our lives is governed by managing, predicting, knowing. Sex and love have never once played by those rules. They remain what they have always been primordial, ungovernable, leading us into the most unpredictable places.
What if sex and love were not problems to be solved — but mysteries that awaken our soul?
I understand that soul may sound vague. Spiritual. Hard to locate in the day-to-day. Thomas Moore, in the book Soul Mates, describes it simply as "a deep stirring inside", what shapes the way we make choices and find meaning.
I consider this soul work, developing a real relationship with your depth, and becoming more real in love, desire, and intimacy.
Session 1 — Initial Call (90min phone) In fifteen years of this work, one thing still moves me — how many people have never had the chance to speak freely about their love and sex lives. Not with their partner, their friends, or with a therapist.
Session 1 is a chance to talk openly and unhurried, at your own pace. First sexual or romantic experiences: how did it shape you? How has your relationship to pleasure and sex changed with age? What do you hope for?
We all want erotic intimacy. But what is actually driving that wanting? We often seek it for recognizable reasons — it feels good, relieves stress, we are attracted to someone, we want closeness, to feel desired. All valid. All real. And all temporary — and usually depends on another person showing up a certain way.
Sex and love ask more of us than that. They are among the most exhilarating and terrifying experiences available to us; and the most meaningful precisely because of that. They crack us open and reshape us. Revealing where we are truly alive, and where we are shutting down.
When we want to improve our intimate lives, we tend to focus on behavior — go on more dates, read more books about relationships, try new things in bed, try harder. But behavior is what we do — values are why we do it. And most of our patterns and our frustrations are not random, and they are not our fault. They are values being honored unconsciously. See the value clearly, and the pattern starts to make more sense.
I have found that discovering your unconscious values and fostering your deepest values is the most honest starting place for this work. Not because it guarantees a happily ever after. It builds inner intimacy that is more reliable, and an inner connection that stays with you regardless of what sex and love does or doesn't bring.
Session 2 — Clothing-on Karezza & Cuddling (3hr in-person) Most of us let someone into our bed before we let them into our inner life. Physical intimacy is often the easier risk. Being more honestly known is the harder one. This session gently reverses that. Trading performance for presence, and creating space for real emotional connection to land.
Session 3 — Your Hidden Beliefs (90 min phone) Using hypnotherapy and NLP parts work, we befriend more of your inner life, the beliefs that hold you back; and the parts of you that already love freely, play openly, and delight in intimacy.
Session 4 — Sensual Bodywork (3.5 or 5hr in-person) By now, we have maps and we are not strangers. Two people celebrating the rare opportunity to be fully free and magical together. This is the true creative nature of erotic love in practice.
From there, if you want more sessions, we can reevaluate what's most important for you and where you want to go next. By the end of our semester together, you leave with more than memories of good sessions, you leave with something to draw from, return to, and build upon long after we're done.
Soul work takes time because our soul is nourished through consistency and connection. The research on actual change — as opposed to temporary relief or insight— is not the technique or the modality that makes the difference. It is the relationship.